For the question at hand, check out the previous post {HERE}
Wow, what a big move. It is hard for me to imagine that transition as an adult, it must be really difficult for a toddler, who not only has the effects of travel and adjustment to a new space, but picks up the stress of his parents. I suggest you talk to your son during the day as you are unpacking and settling in. Say out loud things like, “it is a lot of work to get used to a new house” and “we don’t have as much space as we used to.” Offer comfort and acknowledgment, “we will all adjust together, but it is hard.” Your son may not understand your words, but he will understand your tone and these acknowledgments will bring down the stress level for all of you. Decide where your son will be sleeping. Avoid switching between your room in your bed, your room in a crib, or the living room in a crib. Consistency is key. Begin your nighttime routine about fifteen minutes earlier. Do not add steps, but slowdown the process. Allow yourself to breathe along side Baby D. Put him down with confidence and tell him to sleep well. Let him fuss, whether it is in your bed or in the Pack N Play. Do not try to fix his fitfulness, just let him know you are close by. If he is thrashing in your bed, give him space and let him release all that is pent up from his body (remember we need to do that, too). Quietly, put a hand on him and say “I am here.” If he is in the Pack N Play, check-in in ten minutes and again at lengthened intervals. Avoid loud or jarring sounds in your small apartment, but do not aim for quiet. Adjusting to the noise patterns is important for your son and being able to function is important for you. Couple your understanding of his need to adjust with your confidence and expectation that he is capable. Consistency and clarity will bring back his sleep skills before you know it.
Carolyn Gatzke
Parent Coach
M.A., Human Development
Toni Danielson, ad agency working mom of a big brown-eyed little man, wife to an amazing husband, Digital Media Lover. Blogger. Infographic-obsessed. Expat. Happy Hour Mom. BBall Wife. Not all in that order. Join me in my journey to become the ultimate Happy Hour Mom!
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